Comments on: A Mother’s Guilt http://www.wineplz.com/2008/04/29/a-mothers-guilt/ When the baby is screaming and the toddler is shaving the cat: Wine Please Thu, 03 Feb 2011 03:57:05 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Maya http://www.wineplz.com/2008/04/29/a-mothers-guilt/comment-page-1/#comment-843 Maya Mon, 05 May 2008 02:48:29 +0000 http://www.wineplz.com/?p=227#comment-843 Oh Colleen! I would have been in tears too!!! I'm so glad he's okay! Zane falls off our bed all the time and everytime I freak out! It's really low but still scares me! Oh Colleen! I would have been in tears too!!! I’m so glad he’s okay! Zane falls off our bed all the time and everytime I freak out! It’s really low but still scares me!

]]> By: Flea http://www.wineplz.com/2008/04/29/a-mothers-guilt/comment-page-1/#comment-824 Flea Thu, 01 May 2008 23:05:13 +0000 http://www.wineplz.com/?p=227#comment-824 Oh, hey - my Oatmeal Head, at three weeks, rolled of the couch. Twice. I didn't think they could roll that early, but it seems he could. Who knew? He rolled off of my high bed at about 4 weeks. I'm a slow learner. Now he is too. Oh, hey – my Oatmeal Head, at three weeks, rolled of the couch. Twice. I didn’t think they could roll that early, but it seems he could. Who knew? He rolled off of my high bed at about 4 weeks. I’m a slow learner. Now he is too.

]]> By: Madame Queen http://www.wineplz.com/2008/04/29/a-mothers-guilt/comment-page-1/#comment-818 Madame Queen Thu, 01 May 2008 13:07:49 +0000 http://www.wineplz.com/?p=227#comment-818 Once I had Bubba sitting on the counter while I administered some medicine. I leaned away for just a second and he fell to the floor. I was devastated. Try not to beat yourself up too much. Accidents happen. As for the rash, Punkin used to have the same thing. One thing my ped warned me about was not to put too much diaper cream on b/c it still needs to get some air. I also found that just putting her on a blanket or towel with no diaper and just letting her butt get some air would do wonders! Once I had Bubba sitting on the counter while I administered some medicine. I leaned away for just a second and he fell to the floor. I was devastated. Try not to beat yourself up too much. Accidents happen.

As for the rash, Punkin used to have the same thing. One thing my ped warned me about was not to put too much diaper cream on b/c it still needs to get some air. I also found that just putting her on a blanket or towel with no diaper and just letting her butt get some air would do wonders!

]]> By: They Have No Idea… | Wine Please http://www.wineplz.com/2008/04/29/a-mothers-guilt/comment-page-1/#comment-814 They Have No Idea… | Wine Please Thu, 01 May 2008 02:44:07 +0000 http://www.wineplz.com/?p=227#comment-814 [...] I want to thank all of you who commented below. It was a nice combination of coddeling and tough-love. Sometimes a mom just gets hit with several [...] [...] I want to thank all of you who commented below. It was a nice combination of coddeling and tough-love. Sometimes a mom just gets hit with several [...]

]]> By: Law Student Hot Mama http://www.wineplz.com/2008/04/29/a-mothers-guilt/comment-page-1/#comment-813 Law Student Hot Mama Wed, 30 Apr 2008 22:53:47 +0000 http://www.wineplz.com/?p=227#comment-813 Stop beating yourself up, homie! Hell, kids are made to get themselves knocked around a bit. I mean - think of all the times I probably fell on my head as a child . . . didn't hurt me too much . . . or maybe it did . . . umm . . . anyway Forgive my joking. In all seriousness, you ARE being way too hard on yourself. And I second the last comment that really lousy parents don't worry about it - they just worry about themselves! I'm sorry you an Cooper BOTH had such a bad day! Poor baby - at least that Butt Paste stuff works. Don't worry - you're doing a GREAT job! As for Gavin's stutter? Lots of kids get it and outgrow it and/or go on to lead perfectly productive lives. My dad? An attorney. With a stutter. It's not that big of a deal. Stop beating yourself up, homie! Hell, kids are made to get themselves knocked around a bit. I mean – think of all the times I probably fell on my head as a child . . . didn’t hurt me too much . . . or maybe it did . . . umm . . . anyway

Forgive my joking. In all seriousness, you ARE being way too hard on yourself. And I second the last comment that really lousy parents don’t worry about it – they just worry about themselves! I’m sorry you an Cooper BOTH had such a bad day! Poor baby – at least that Butt Paste stuff works. Don’t worry – you’re doing a GREAT job!

As for Gavin’s stutter? Lots of kids get it and outgrow it and/or go on to lead perfectly productive lives. My dad? An attorney. With a stutter. It’s not that big of a deal.

]]> By: Jesse http://www.wineplz.com/2008/04/29/a-mothers-guilt/comment-page-1/#comment-812 Jesse Wed, 30 Apr 2008 21:08:35 +0000 http://www.wineplz.com/?p=227#comment-812 Let me tell you one thing: Truly bad mothers do not sit and worry that they are bad mothers. ALL moms second guess, and we ALL look back and wish we'd done things differently (read:better) but you can't let that shake your faith! YOU are the absolute best person for your kids. Period. Think if you had read someone else's account of a day like this. Would you think, "What a case of neglect!!"?? No! You'd think, "That poor Momma, she needs a hug and someone to tell her it's okay, she's doing the best she can" That's what I thought when I read your post. We're always harder on ourselves than we'd ever be on someone else. Give yourself a break. You're doing a great job :) (Here ends the longest comment I've ever written in the history of blogging!) Let me tell you one thing: Truly bad mothers do not sit and worry that they are bad mothers.
ALL moms second guess, and we ALL look back and wish we’d done things differently (read:better) but you can’t let that shake your faith! YOU are the absolute best person for your kids. Period. Think if you had read someone else’s account of a day like this. Would you think, “What a case of neglect!!”?? No! You’d think, “That poor Momma, she needs a hug and someone to tell her it’s okay, she’s doing the best she can” That’s what I thought when I read your post. We’re always harder on ourselves than we’d ever be on someone else. Give yourself a break.
You’re doing a great job :)
(Here ends the longest comment I’ve ever written in the history of blogging!)

]]> By: Marti http://www.wineplz.com/2008/04/29/a-mothers-guilt/comment-page-1/#comment-811 Marti Wed, 30 Apr 2008 19:45:45 +0000 http://www.wineplz.com/?p=227#comment-811 Hi Colleen!!! Thanks for stopping by my blog! We used to live up your way as well. In Reston/Herndon and then in Stafford when it came time to buy a house. (Don't tell anyone but I didn't like it much up there!!!) Anyways, love your blog! I have had MANY guilty momma moments. One being sending my sick kid to school. WHO DOES THAT? Yeah apparently I do. I wouldn't stress about the stutter too much. My nephew did it at that age and he grew out of it. Also, Bean used to get TERRIBLE rashes. I was turned on to Triple Paste. YOu get it at CVS. IT IS AWESOME! And I have tried EVERYTHING. Good luck and I'll be back to visit! Hi Colleen!!!
Thanks for stopping by my blog! We used to live up your way as well. In Reston/Herndon and then in Stafford when it came time to buy a house. (Don’t tell anyone but I didn’t like it much up there!!!)
Anyways, love your blog! I have had MANY guilty momma moments. One being sending my sick kid to school. WHO DOES THAT? Yeah apparently I do.
I wouldn’t stress about the stutter too much. My nephew did it at that age and he grew out of it.
Also, Bean used to get TERRIBLE rashes. I was turned on to Triple Paste. YOu get it at CVS.
IT IS AWESOME! And I have tried EVERYTHING.
Good luck and I’ll be back to visit!

]]> By: caramama http://www.wineplz.com/2008/04/29/a-mothers-guilt/comment-page-1/#comment-809 caramama Wed, 30 Apr 2008 19:32:04 +0000 http://www.wineplz.com/?p=227#comment-809 You need to stop beating yourself up and second guessing yourself! I haven't gotten to know you yet, but just reading this post I was struck by how normal all those things are! It's not you or anything you did. Kids are kids. They do sudden acrobatic that lead to falls that we can't stop. They go through different speech patterns that they need help with. It's so not you! You sound like a thoughtful, concerned and loving mom. Believe in that. About the stuttering, I hear that with some speech therapy, most kids can overcome it pretty quickly, if they don't just do it on their own. It's just another phase of growth. It'll work out. :-) You need to stop beating yourself up and second guessing yourself! I haven’t gotten to know you yet, but just reading this post I was struck by how normal all those things are! It’s not you or anything you did. Kids are kids. They do sudden acrobatic that lead to falls that we can’t stop. They go through different speech patterns that they need help with. It’s so not you!

You sound like a thoughtful, concerned and loving mom. Believe in that.

About the stuttering, I hear that with some speech therapy, most kids can overcome it pretty quickly, if they don’t just do it on their own. It’s just another phase of growth. It’ll work out. :-)

]]> By: Flea http://www.wineplz.com/2008/04/29/a-mothers-guilt/comment-page-1/#comment-808 Flea Wed, 30 Apr 2008 19:16:39 +0000 http://www.wineplz.com/?p=227#comment-808 You are a GOOD MOTHER. Repeat that to yourself ten times, once an hour. You are. All moms have bouts like this. It's completely normal. Your boys will be fine. You are a GOOD MOTHER. Repeat that to yourself ten times, once an hour. You are. All moms have bouts like this. It’s completely normal. Your boys will be fine.

]]> By: LL http://www.wineplz.com/2008/04/29/a-mothers-guilt/comment-page-1/#comment-807 LL Wed, 30 Apr 2008 16:30:19 +0000 http://www.wineplz.com/?p=227#comment-807 I agree with the other two commentors. Sh*t happens and you are decidedly not to blame. Cooper is going to get hurt many more times in the future and what matters (and what he'll remember) is that mommy hugged him and made him feel safe (well, that and doggies are very funny). You already did due diligence in finding a daycare you trust and you informed them to keep on extra eye on the little acrobat - you handled it all perfectly. And about Gavin. I had a starter when I was young. I'd forgotten how bad it was until I saw home movies the other day. While it was annoying it didn't stop me from talking up a storm. I grew out of it on my own, though I think some speech therapy would have been a good thing and I wish my parents had stepped in at some point. (I stuttered through elementary school and still have words I can't get out for the life of me). Good for you for offering early intervention and don't for a second think it is your fault. It's just a speech pattern he will work through and is not remotely related to what he drank as a newborn! Oh, and we love Dr. Smiths diaper creme and have accidentally discovered when Landon has a rash that he loves to sit on the granite counter tops in the kitchen or bathroom- I think they feel nice and cool. I agree with the other two commentors. Sh*t happens and you are decidedly not to blame. Cooper is going to get hurt many more times in the future and what matters (and what he’ll remember) is that mommy hugged him and made him feel safe (well, that and doggies are very funny). You already did due diligence in finding a daycare you trust and you informed them to keep on extra eye on the little acrobat – you handled it all perfectly.

And about Gavin. I had a starter when I was young. I’d forgotten how bad it was until I saw home movies the other day. While it was annoying it didn’t stop me from talking up a storm. I grew out of it on my own, though I think some speech therapy would have been a good thing and I wish my parents had stepped in at some point. (I stuttered through elementary school and still have words I can’t get out for the life of me). Good for you for offering early intervention and don’t for a second think it is your fault. It’s just a speech pattern he will work through and is not remotely related to what he drank as a newborn!

Oh, and we love Dr. Smiths diaper creme and have accidentally discovered when Landon has a rash that he loves to sit on the granite counter tops in the kitchen or bathroom- I think they feel nice and cool.

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